Need advice-re kids

[MommyAnyway]

This is long as I will try to give enough info to get a clear picture.
We live in a small town, dad (my be of 10 years) has two kids 16, 20 I have a 10 year old. He has had custody since 2021. Mom is addict. Court ordered her to claim kids on taxes give him half. Dad draws disability so usually doesn’t file, I work, I file. Judge said it wasn’t fair to let me claim. I am main breadwinner I make 4x what he draws. She pays child support. She hasn’t given the children anything in years. Barley sees them.
This year I said, I was claiming them. The court hasn’t done anything about her flaunting the order, doesn’t seem likely to. I pay for everything for them. I do all the appointments. I have for 10 YEARS. She agreed, then went and claimed them anyway. Then sent me a horrible text calling names, threatening me, and more.
I have read laws and forums until I’m crosseyed. I have an appointment with a lawyer next week but any advice or information anyone can help me with ?

And yes, dad is fully involved and supporting this.

[LolaR]

Also, make sure you’re keeping records of everything! Text messages, child support payments or lack there of, everything. Communication is through text or email. If you live in a one party state, record every verbal conversation.

I wish you much luck!!

[LolaR]

IMO, it just needs to go back to court. If the judge said no to you claiming, then don’t do it. If she’s paying child support, she’s technically taking care of them in the courts eyes. To them, your just helping dad. Being the girlfriend really holds no bearings (assuming you are not married) and in some states, even being the step parent means nothing.

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